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Dear Body Party, It’s been a rough year– all I can seem to muster the energy to do is masturbate constantly because I hate myself and feeling lonely. I can’t seem to meet anyone in this god forsaken town to sooth my existential shit, I just want to meet new nice folks who are kind and cute and will hang out and make out with me. How do I fix this! How do I meet people queer people in this goddamn town? Thanks, Queer Cutie Seeking Kin Hey Queer Cutie Seeking Kin, Life gets rough sometimes/ life is rough all the time, but don’t fret– one day these days will all be bad memories. Let’s go in order. Chronic mastrabation can be a real problem. Mastrabation, like anything that feels good (or produces any kind of sensation), can be really adictive. Orgasm releases many happy hormones like oxytocin, which lowers your body’s levels of cortisol, a hormone produced by stress that can have negative impacts on your health and mood. Thus, or...

 
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March 20, 2017



Dear Body Party, I got an irregular Pap Test, indicating that I most likely have human papillomavirus (HPV). HPV seems like a very big deal because it could lead to cervical cancer, but also like a very not big deal because I heard most people get it at some point in their lives—so what’s the deal? Should I freak out? Should I tell my partners? Should I tell everyone I ever had sex with? Should I call my mom? Hello, I think the only reason to freak out is that you’re going to have to spend a little more time with doctors then you were planning to, as many HPV infections are simply inconveniences rather than life altering concerns. You’re right that the majority of sexually active people will get HPV in their lifetime. And although HPV can cause anal, penile, and cervical cancer, among others, the Center for Disease Control (CDC) estimates that nine out of ten HPV infections will be cleared naturally by the body within three years ...

 
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Dear Body Party, There are all of these red little bumps around my genitals and I am really really freaked out that I may have herpes? It’s all I can think about, my anxiety surrounding it is taking over my life. I know it’s really common, but I never thought it would be me. Thanks, One in Four Dear One in Four, Take a deep breathe- yes, you may have herpes. But you also may not have herpes. Red, irritated bumps around the genitals could be a sign of herpes, but they could also be ingrown hairs, which can be caused by shaving or the rubbing of clothes against your skin. Ingrown hairs, while uncomfortable, are not a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Instead, they are just irritated and inflamed hair follicles. Herpes sores, as opposed to ingrown hairs, are symptoms of viral shedding, and are characterized by uncomfortable red bumps or blisters that will bust after a day or two and ooz a some sort of milky liquid, becoming p...

 
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Dear Body Party, What’s going on here? Why are we still doing this? What’s the point? Just Checkin’ in, -Body Party Hey there Body Party! Nice to hear from you. It’s been a while! For all you new comers out there (and all of those Cooper Point Journal veterans who have never ventured this far into our paper) Body Party is a sex positive sex and relationship advice column, which was created to field questions about sex and relationships in a mindful way to help promote safe, healthy, and more fruitful relationships and sexual encounters. Sex, love, and everything in between are normal parts of existing as a weird flesh mass, but the way that we approach and talk about those things tend to be steeped in stigma, socialization, and mis- education. Since we’ve started writing Body Party, we’ve gotten quite a few questions from the community about what it means to be a “sex positive” advice column. To us, being “sex positive...

 
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Dear Body Party, My friend and I keep getting into round about discussions about consent and what it really means and how to go about enacting it in our relationships. Honestly, asking before we do anything at all with our partners seems exhausting and awkward. Can you clear this up for us? Thanks! -Questioning Consent Hey Questioning Consent, Consent is actually pretty straight forward—it is defined as getting permission from your partner, particularly when you’re engaged in sexual activity—but people tend to get a little mixed up when it comes to the details. What you’re talking about, constant questions, comes from the idea of affirmative consent, a faction of radical consent. Radical consent states that not only should affirmative consent be mandatory, but that the ideas surrounding consent should permeate your whole relationship and not be confined to sexual encounters. People, regardless of their sexual activity, should hav...

 
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Dear Body Party, My partner is really into porn. Like really, really into porn. They watch it more or less every day, and it makes me really uncomfortable. Last time I brought it up they made me feel guilty for asking them to stop doing something that makes them happy. I want them to be happy, sexually and emotionally, and asking them again makes me feel gross and controlling, but not saying anything is starting to feel passive aggressive because they know I hate it. Where do I go from here? Dear (Not A) Porn Star, Porn is tricky. The sex positive progressive in all of us is desperate to destigmitize sexual imagery but there is no doubt that the majority of porn is problematic in is depiction of not just women but sex in general. While there are many, many problems with the porn industry as a whole, the biggest post production concern is usually regarding its unrealistic portrayal of bodies and how they have sex. Porn sex is often...

 
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Hey Body Party, This is my first year at Evergreen, it’s almost June, and I am still a virgin. I get it, I get it, virginity is a construct, but it still blows. There’s this kid I really like and while I’m not in general ashamed of never having had sex- I want to be in a relationship when I fuck someone for the first time and I stand by that choice- the combination of my crush and my virginity makes me embarrassed. I am not religious, I just don’t want my first time having sex to be casual. How do I talk about it with them? - VIRGIN   Hey VIRGIN, You’re right, virginity is a construct and one that has deep roots in patriarchal structure at that- but construct or not, your feelings are real. If sex has sentimental value to you, or you want your first time to ‘mean something’, that is completely valid. Rejecting the idea of virginity should not go hand in hand with rejecting your right to make your own rules about ...

 
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Dear Body Party, Help, I’m cold and I want to make out. I have a crush on this person, which is great, and I think they may like me back, which is also great—but the problem is, they’re not the only person I like, they’re just the person I like who I think is the most likely to want to kiss me back. Is it bad to go out with them—despite the fact that they are number three or so on my list—just because I think I may have a slight opening? I’m not really looking for something serious, but I want something—is it rude or mean or unfair to drag them into this? Is it worth my time? It’s mid February, we’re just coming off of Valentine’s Day, it’s 40 or so degrees outside—we all want something or someone to help us ward off seasonal affective disorder. You’re not the only one, and you certainly aren’t ‘bad’ or ‘mean’ for wanting to date someone despite maybe being more invested in someone prettier, more interesting, or less self obsessed....

 
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Dear Body Party, I am going through a major dry spell, and I was watching that one Sex in the City episode the other night and fell into a Google hole- I spent hours looking up vibrators, dildos, butt plugs. How am I supposed to choose? They’re all so expensive and what I thought would be a quick solve for my sexual frustration is looking more complicated (and expensive!) than just trying to snag a Tinder date. Where should I start? Should I hit Lovers or hit the app store? Honestly, screw Tinder. Fuck yourself instead. Searching for a new sex toy is a bit like opening a can of worms- there’s too many, they’re all different but serve the same basic purpose, and many of them tend to wiggle around a whole lot. Get it? Me neither. Sex is one of those complicated things that can actually be pretty simple- on a very basic level, good sex is about being honest with yourself about what you like, and being willing to ask for it- regardles...

 
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Dear Body Party, I recently started back on antidepressants, and while I’ve stopped thinking about death so often (yay!) I’ve completely lost my sex drive and, worse yet, lost any ability to cum. Is there any ways I can get my sex drive back without dropping the SSRIs and plunging back into a depressive pit? -Less Sad, but Sexless Hey Less Sad, but Sexless, I’ve got good news for you, and I’ve got bad. The good news is that often times different anti depressants effect sex drive differently than others, so shopping around could drastically improve your sexual health and boost your ability to orgasm. The bad news is that while a new prescription could help out, it is unlikely that there is any one solution to your problem. The standard pharmacological treatment for clinical depression are Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), medication that stops the brain from disposing of excess serotonin, a neurotransmitter crucia...