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Welcome to college, bitch. You’re most likely about to do some fucking. If you know you won’t be fucking then that’s cool, we here at Body Party know that some people get by just fine without sex, but for this issue we’re getting into some vital information about how to get up to some healthy and consensual boinking. This is a column where a team of well-seasoned students answer anonymous questions about anything about or relating to putting your body parts on other people’s body parts. We do this because whether you gave em the ol’ toot n’ boot or you’re really excited to see them again (hint: this is a small town you can bet your and all your roommates glass blown pipes & copies of Howard Zinn’s “A People’s History of the United States” that you’re going to see them again), dating in college can be specifically tricky. For our first fall issue we’re going to provide some basic resources and advice to help you have a fun and sat...

 
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Dear Body Party, It’s been a rough year– all I can seem to muster the energy to do is masturbate constantly because I hate myself and feeling lonely. I can’t seem to meet anyone in this god forsaken town to sooth my existential shit, I just want to meet new nice folks who are kind and cute and will hang out and make out with me. How do I fix this! How do I meet people queer people in this goddamn town? Thanks, Queer Cutie Seeking Kin Hey Queer Cutie Seeking Kin, Life gets rough sometimes/ life is rough all the time, but don’t fret– one day these days will all be bad memories. Let’s go in order. Chronic mastrabation can be a real problem. Mastrabation, like anything that feels good (or produces any kind of sensation), can be really adictive. Orgasm releases many happy hormones like oxytocin, which lowers your body’s levels of cortisol, a hormone produced by stress that can have negative impacts on your health and mood. Thus, or...

 
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March 20, 2017



Dear Body Party, I got an irregular Pap Test, indicating that I most likely have human papillomavirus (HPV). HPV seems like a very big deal because it could lead to cervical cancer, but also like a very not big deal because I heard most people get it at some point in their lives—so what’s the deal? Should I freak out? Should I tell my partners? Should I tell everyone I ever had sex with? Should I call my mom? Hello, I think the only reason to freak out is that you’re going to have to spend a little more time with doctors then you were planning to, as many HPV infections are simply inconveniences rather than life altering concerns. You’re right that the majority of sexually active people will get HPV in their lifetime. And although HPV can cause anal, penile, and cervical cancer, among others, the Center for Disease Control (CDC) estimates that nine out of ten HPV infections will be cleared naturally by the body within three years ...

 
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Dear Body Party, There are all of these red little bumps around my genitals and I am really really freaked out that I may have herpes? It’s all I can think about, my anxiety surrounding it is taking over my life. I know it’s really common, but I never thought it would be me. Thanks, One in Four Dear One in Four, Take a deep breathe- yes, you may have herpes. But you also may not have herpes. Red, irritated bumps around the genitals could be a sign of herpes, but they could also be ingrown hairs, which can be caused by shaving or the rubbing of clothes against your skin. Ingrown hairs, while uncomfortable, are not a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Instead, they are just irritated and inflamed hair follicles. Herpes sores, as opposed to ingrown hairs, are symptoms of viral shedding, and are characterized by uncomfortable red bumps or blisters that will bust after a day or two and ooz a some sort of milky liquid, becoming p...

 
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Dear Body Party, What’s going on here? Why are we still doing this? What’s the point? Just Checkin’ in, -Body Party Hey there Body Party! Nice to hear from you. It’s been a while! For all you new comers out there (and all of those Cooper Point Journal veterans who have never ventured this far into our paper) Body Party is a sex positive sex and relationship advice column, which was created to field questions about sex and relationships in a mindful way to help promote safe, healthy, and more fruitful relationships and sexual encounters. Sex, love, and everything in between are normal parts of existing as a weird flesh mass, but the way that we approach and talk about those things tend to be steeped in stigma, socialization, and mis- education. Since we’ve started writing Body Party, we’ve gotten quite a few questions from the community about what it means to be a “sex positive” advice column. To us, being “sex positive...

 
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Dear Body Party, I want to get on hormonal birth control, but I am still on my family’s insurance and my mom is not exactly sex positive (or even sex present). How can I bring it up to her? What can I say to make her understand that being on birth control is important to me and not some immoral travesty? Dear Planned Not Parenthood, Birth control is incredibly important in having safe, carefree sex but it sure can be tricky and exhausting, especially if you’re still technically under the medical watch of your parents. In general, it is best to keep things long range—focus on how you want to get on birth control now so that you can have safe sex in the future. Parents tend to get scared when they realize their kids are growing up and out of their control and watchful eye, and the added social issues and stigmas that surround sex tend to intensify those feelings. As a rule you should never have to justify yourself and your sexual...

 
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Dear Body Party, Help, I’m cold and I want to make out. I have a crush on this person, which is great, and I think they may like me back, which is also great—but the problem is, they’re not the only person I like, they’re just the person I like who I think is the most likely to want to kiss me back. Is it bad to go out with them—despite the fact that they are number three or so on my list—just because I think I may have a slight opening? I’m not really looking for something serious, but I want something—is it rude or mean or unfair to drag them into this? Is it worth my time? It’s mid February, we’re just coming off of Valentine’s Day, it’s 40 or so degrees outside—we all want something or someone to help us ward off seasonal affective disorder. You’re not the only one, and you certainly aren’t ‘bad’ or ‘mean’ for wanting to date someone despite maybe being more invested in someone prettier, more interesting, or less self obsessed....

 
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Dear Body Party, I am a cis woman and while I love plenty about sex—the intimacy, making out, getting eaten out—I find penetration kind of uncomfortable. I tried going out and buying some KY Jelly and although it helped out, it got all over everything, smelled like cough syrup, and made me feel kind of sticky. Do you have any lube suggestions? Lube makes all kinds of sex better. No one should ever feel bad about not being able to get wet enough, and nobody should ever have to put up with uncomfortable sex. Sex should not be tolerable- it should be enjoyable, and lube can play a big part in making that happen, no matter what you’re putting in where. Too often, people end up grabbing whatever is lying around to get the job done- sample packets collected at Pride, coconut oil (which can work wonders in the right situation), or even conditioner (in general, I don’t think you should use anything a 13 year old boy uses to mastrabate for...

 
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Dear Body Party, I recently started back on antidepressants, and while I’ve stopped thinking about death so often (yay!) I’ve completely lost my sex drive and, worse yet, lost any ability to cum. Is there any ways I can get my sex drive back without dropping the SSRIs and plunging back into a depressive pit? -Less Sad, but Sexless Hey Less Sad, but Sexless, I’ve got good news for you, and I’ve got bad. The good news is that often times different anti depressants effect sex drive differently than others, so shopping around could drastically improve your sexual health and boost your ability to orgasm. The bad news is that while a new prescription could help out, it is unlikely that there is any one solution to your problem. The standard pharmacological treatment for clinical depression are Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), medication that stops the brain from disposing of excess serotonin, a neurotransmitter crucia...

 
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By Jules Prosser I went to Hump! Fest for the first time this year. Boy, was I excited! I knew it was going to be weird. I knew it was going to be delightfully uncomfortable. I knew it was going to be a sexy time. Being a fan of all of these, I was counting down the hours until 11 p.m., the second and final showing. On the day of the show, I walked on the bus and sat down on the seat in front of a friend. We discovered that we would both be attending the same screening. I mentioned I was bringing a date, and we discussed the potential repercussions of doing so. The conclusion was, the reaction of your date will probably predict the trajectory of your relationship with them. Everyone should go on a date to Hump! Fest. It’s a fun little experiment, I promise. A little about Hump! for you headscratchers: The first festival was in 2005, in our very own little corner of the world. It was started by alt-newspaper The Stranger a...